I have a strong belief that everytime I fail, life wants me to learn something. It’s the only certain way to avoid sliding downwards on the cycle of success.
Remember the last time you failed. Big-time, screwing up so bad that you thought there’s no point in going on. No light. How did you feel? Did you feel like starting over? Or like throwing it all away and giving up completely? Whichever way you felt, I bet you it wasn’t a pleasant feeling. I usually think of giving up in moments like this. I get totally depressed and start bashing my head against the wall :)
There is, however, a simple way to avoid this negativity. Instead of crying and whining and filling your brain with pain and regret, wipe your tears and ask yourself two simple questions:
- What happened? Shortly describe (in written) exactly what made you feel bad, but make sure you don’t exaggerate. Keep as close to the truth as your state of mind permits. Try not seeing the situation worse than it actually is.
- What have I learnt? I’m sure you know of a way to avoid situations / problems like that in the future. What is it? Write it down. Got more than one good idea? Remembered a quotation that could help you in the future? A slogan? Write down whatever you think will keep you away from wrong decisions in the future.
I know what you’re thinking now: ‘Nah, it’s useless. I know I’ll step into the same pit again. I’m such a loser!’ See, that is, indeed, the loser in you speaking. Make it shut up. Wake up the optimist in you. I know this sounds difficult, but try it once and you’ll see that it will make you feel better. Suddenly the dark is not that dark after all! And if you keep a list of what you’ve learnt from your mistakes, eventually you’ll run out of things that can go wrong!
“Success is the result of good judgement.
Good judgement is the result of experience.
Experience is the result of bad judgement.”